Staying Connected as a Couple Through Writing in a Toddler-Run Life & a GIVEAWAY


Staying connected as a couple in a toddler-run life is ridiculously hard. It doesn’t matter how much time you have or how busy you are, it’s tough to take one on one time for you and your partner.

Our life constantly runs around our toddler, making sure she’s well taken care of, which makes it hard to give each other the time we need as a couple. It’s created some hard times in our relationship.

Justin works 10 hours a day away from home. I, on the other hand, work 8 hours a day at home. I work before our daughter wakes, while she naps, and after she goes to bed. When she’s awake, I’m doing chores like laundry, vacuuming, mopping, etc. Of course, I’m also spending time with her, making sure she gets all the attention she needs and then some.

Because Justin gets off work and instantly has to come home to take care of our toddler so I can finish up whatever work and chores I have, we don’t get a whole lot of time together.

Every date we go on, we bring our daughter. We just like it better that way. Seriously, we spend almost no time together, just the two of us. We always have our toddler with us. Now, I’m not complaining. We LOVE spending time with her, more than one on one time with just each other, but it does make it hard to remember that we are a couple sometimes and that someday, she won’t run our lives.

So, how do we stay connected as a couple? We write. Words are basically the answer to our every problem.

We keep a small notebook, one I got on sale at our local bookstore, and in it we write to one another. Whatever comes to mind. Song lyrics, stories, love notes, gratitude, things of that sort. Just anything that makes us think of one another. Then, every day, we each get a special note to remind us why we’re together and that while we don’t get to spend a whole lot of time one on one, we’re still connected and in love.

He writes my note before work and I read it when I wake up. I write his note when our daughter eats lunch and he reads it when he gets home from work. It’s a little silent activity to bring us together.

We have a growing little book filled with great memories and letters and it’s totally beautiful.

Now, you’re probably thinking this couldn’t possibly fit into your crazy schedules, but it can. In the time it takes you to scroll Facebook or drink a cup of coffee, you can write a little note. It doesn’t have to be long. Just something to remind your partner that you love them. Hey, it doesn’t even have to be daily. Try weekly if daily seems too daunting.

Give it a try. You’ll be amazed at the results it brings.


Who’s ready for a giveaway?! Share this article whichever way you’d like. Facebook, Twitter, E-Mail, etc., and then comment on this post telling me you’re willing to write to your partner when you can, whether you have kids or not. It doesn’t have to be daily, just as often as possible. In return, those of you who enter this giveaway will have a chance to win a special notebook to write to your partner in.

One of you will win a simple black Moleskine Classic Notebook, my favorite kind of journal.

Giveaway ends Sunday, January 10th at 11:55 P.M. PST.

The winner will be announced on Monday, January 11th AT 12:00 P.M. PST and sent a message to ensure s/he knows s/he has won.

So, who’s in?

Wanting to stay connected with your children through writing too? Feeling like there’s too many cute memories to store in your mind and want to know a better way to keep them around? Check out this post.

38 thoughts on “Staying Connected as a Couple Through Writing in a Toddler-Run Life & a GIVEAWAY

  1. I used to leave notes for my loves often but over time I quit. Thank you for the reminder how fun it is to do this, I will have to start doing it again!


  2. Shared! This is such a great idea. My little one is almost 12 months, and life is hectic. Between finding free time and finding a babysitter, we rarely get time to connect. This is a great idea to help us!


  3. Sounds like a great idea. My husband and I lived in different cities for awhile and would send letters/notes/cards back and forth. I will definitely get back into doing this.


    1. No toddler necessary for this process!
      I am so excited that you like this idea and are going to get it started with you and your spouse. It’s so fun!
      Thank you for stopping by and entering my giveaway!


    1. It would be great to share with brides and grooms. I love that idea!
      I’m not sure if you put together “care packages” for the couples after their wedding, but it’d be awesome to add to that! I have some other ideas for that, too if you would like.


  4. This is a great idea. For a wedding gift (almost four years ago now), someone gave us a Mr. & Mrs. Journal. One of my love languages is words of affirmation, and writing notes was such a lovely thing. We would write a note and then hide the book for the other person to find as a surprise. We really got out of the habit, though, and the book isn’t even a quarter full! We’re having our first baby within the next month or so and I worry about staying connected. So I’m excited to take this challenge! Thanks for sharing!!


    1. That’s the perfect wedding gift to receive! I would have never thought of doing that for a newly wed couple, but I’m glad you brought that up because it’s genius and I’m definitely going to be doing that for my next set of friends who get married.
      I also like the idea of hiding the book for fun! That throws in a whole new twist to it. My other half doesn’t know yet, but we’re trying that tonight.
      It’s hard to keep going with a baby, so remember it doesn’t have to happen every day, or be a long piece. A simple “I love you” or “I appreciate you” is all I get in sometimes. Sometimes we go weeks without writing. Life does get crazy so don’t put too much pressure on it. You can do this!
      Congrats on the baby, too! That’s so exciting.


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